[Video] | Lifestyle, Leadership & Legacy


A message I shared with Clover Hill in 2014.  3 things I want you to do as it relates to HONOR …

1. Honor God with your LIFESTYLE.

I care that you are healthy. We honor God when we honor him with our lifestyle. Physically, Financially, Relationally, and Spiritually.

Physically | Eat healthy, sleep well, exercise.

Our bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit and the only time I’ve seen an earthly temple or place of worship trashed is when the enemy enters.

Financially – Get out of debt.

You are slave to your lender. Our culture has conditioned us to borrow and made it a cultural norm to be in debt. It’s going to take some work. You better work. Be free so we can help those in need. I’m not depending on the government to bail me out. God has commissioned the Church, to reach the needy. Live below your means so there is room to help. Let’s move from being if it’s possible if we can help to how much we are able to help. Honor God with your lifestyle.

RelationallyGive honor where honor is due.

Watch your words closely. Use it not to be a comedian, not to tear people down, but build them up. Human beings were meant to be in relationship. It’s God’s design. If we are real with one another, we are going to have some heated moments but we must maintain honor for one another, that all may go well. Let your words be few. Honor God with your lifestyle.

SpirituallyHonor God, by honoring His Word.

To honor it is to revere, esteem and obey it. To obey it, you have to know it, live it, love it.

2. Honor God with your LEADERSHIP.

Leadership is influence.  Nothing more nothing less. Honor God with your influence. When people exert their influence in different environments, they cause others to line up and act on the actions that you deem important.

Everyone is a leader. I say this all the time. There is a leadership capacity in all of us, a capacity to influence people. You’ve got FB friends, Twitter followers, Pinterest, Vine, Tumblr … a great platform to Honor the Lord.

I’ve watched leadership qualities develop in my kids, even my two year old. She’s an influencer. Why is it my boys can be seated at the table in the babies room sipping imaginary cups of tea? Why? Because she’s an influencer. You are a leader, you are an influencer, but what are you doing with that influence? Honor God with your leadership. As a mother, as a father, as a teacher, as a spiritual leader, as a mentor, as a husband, wife, older brother or sister … Honor God with your leadership. Honor God with your influence.

This is about the people you interact with daily.  

3. Honor God with your LEGACY.

It’s about everyone else you will touch. 

I ask people all the time, in one or two sentences what will people remember you for?

My grandparents had no clue that in 2013 I’d be standing before people celebrating his life of obedience and determination on the scripture in Joshua that said, “as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

Whether you like it or not, your legacy is being written as I speak to you.  

I want my life to be one filled with honor.  When it got tough, I stayed on track. I want the generations that come after me to say something like, I’m riding on the coat tails of honor, blessing and obedience that came from my life and ministry in Midlothian Virginia. My family will honor the Lord, His Church, His Creation, and our legacy as a church will go beyond the years we both have on this Earth.  

True Confessions of an Associate Pastor : Your Body

My Worship Pastor and good friend, Trevor Walker shared this message last Wednesday and gave me the ok to share with you in case you missed it.

Pastor Trevor has been instrumental in my life in helping me learn, understand and become more free to worship.  I’m grateful for the anointing on his life.  Have a quick read … here are his notes:

God Wants your BODY!

This talk is on using our bodies as a living sacrifice of praise!

If you grew up like me, you thought weirdoes worship God with their hands and feet, and everyone else is uncomfortable when they are doing it.

I was raised in a Pentecostal church, but it was a congregation of senior saints, and they were not expressive in their worship at all.

There was a granny on an organ and lacked any life or passion.

When I started to attend a different Pentecostal church as a teenager, it went to the other extreme. Folks would literally run around the sanctuary.

Once a lady ran into the drum set and knocked it all down!

So I have seen in my life the two extremes of expressions of praise.

What we tend to do is those who have seen abuses of expressions are extra cautious because we don’t want to let the “flesh in” or we just down right didn’t like the strangeness of the expression.

For others you have no reference for expression of praise so you may just keep it at arms length.

I want us to take an honest look tonight at PRAISE and how the bible commands us to do it.

A few things about our bodies:

#1 Your Body is not your own–

1 cor 6:19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself

The message 1 cor 6  don’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body

#2 our bodies were made for the lord

1 cor 6:13-17 They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies. 14 And God will raise us from the dead by his power, just as he raised our Lord from the dead. 15 Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ?

#3 These bodies are temporary

2 cor 5:1-10 1 For we know that when this earthly tent we live in is taken down (that is, when we die and leave this earthly body), we will have a house in heaven, an eternal body made for us by God himself and not by human hands. 2 We grow weary in our present bodies, and we long to put on our heavenly bodies like new clothing. 3 For we will put on heavenly bodies; we will not be spirits without bodies.[a] 4 While we live in these earthly bodies, we groan and sigh, but it’s not that we want to die and get rid of these bodies that clothe us. Rather, we want to put on our new bodies so that these dying bodies will be swallowed up by life. 5 God himself has prepared us for this, and as a guarantee he has given us his Holy Spirit.

6 So we are always confident, even though we know that as long as we live in these bodies we are not at home with the Lord. 7 For we live by believing and not by seeing. 8 Yes, we are fully confident, and we would rather be away from these earthly bodies, for then we will be at home with the Lord. 9 So whether we are here in this body or away from this body, our goal is to please him. 10 For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body.

Here’s the Foundation:

Luke 10:27 Love the lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength

As Christians who love God, its easier to love God with our heart, soul, and mind, but for some reason its most difficult to love God with our strength or our bodies

My hope for this church is that we allow your body to agree with your heart and your mouth

We can say all day long that we LOVE GOD, but our bodies speak louder than our words

#4 Gods desires don’t necessarily jive with our personalities

People think I move in worship because I’m outgoing, this is not correct.

I am challenging myself to step out even more with expressions or “postures of praise”

Do you think it was Jesus’ personality to be tortured and murdered brutally?

Jesus is the best example of loving with his body. HE LITTERALLY GAVE his BODY for us!

I am challenging you to Shoulder your cross and Die to self

I have seen people at the football game, or at Chucke Cheese, you cant use the personality thing with me.

This argument to me is invalid and unjustified, yet it is the most used in regarding praising God

Lack of expression comes from familiarity


For some, they view expressions of praise as lack of reverence or respect.

I will say this, we have a generation who do not understand respect. Who have not been taught respect.

But stifling expressions of praise will not fix this.

Jesus said come to me like a little child. You ever watched a few kids before?

Its foolish, it’s unorthodox, its even humiliating.

Yet Jesus said to imitate them, NOT the pious religious people!

Tonight I am challenging you to Give your body to God

Romans 12:1-2 1 And so, dear brothers and sisters,[a] I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him.[b] 2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

make your body a living sacrifice of Praise

See American Christians want a comfortable Christianity. Im here to tell you it is anything BUT comfortable!

For many worshipping God is uncomfortable, but that isn’t what makes it a sacrifice…its giving ourselves to God without taking it back.

The rewards for offering ourselves to God are incredible!


  1. a.     Worship with your body keeps your heart tender
  2. b.     Worship with your body keeps you ears tuned to Gods voice
  3. c.      Worship with your body keeps your flesh humble
  4. d.     Worship with your body keeps you from physical sin


A few weeks back, I sensed the lord asking me to kneel. I was on stage leading worship, and it was at a point where I could do it technically, and the team wouldn’t miss a beat.

I refused. I told the lord every reason why I cant. (people are watching, I don’t normally do that, these are my good jeans, the band might mess up, its weird)

I didn’t do it, and felt strongly convicted that I missed an opportunity to grow closer to the lord.

The next week, I heard it again in my heart… kneel! Buddy I dropped to the floor so quick, and it was such an expression of humility for me, and worship that impacted me greatly.


  1. a.     that’s not my personality
  2. b.     IM free to worship however I feel (wrong, is there anything else like this)
  3. c.      Who are you to tell people how to worship? (God says it, lines in the road)
  4. d.     I don’t want to be thought of as a freak – (1 cor 1 foolish things to confound the wise)
  5. e.     I wasn’t raised that way (your in a new family now) Eph 1 says God has adopted us
  6. f.      Not a good dancer – were you a good anything before you practiced?
  7. g.     God is a God of order – 1cor 14:33 For God is not a God of disorder but of peace (out of context. Its referring to too many trying to talk at the same time)
  8. h.     What if it gets out of control – don’t throw the baby out with the bath water. If something gets out of control well grow and learn from it
  9. i.       What will unbelievers think?  (They are longing to do something godly with their bodies)
  10. j.       What if its my flesh.

(Dancing in the spirit, well what does that mean?)

Folks have always been so concerned with operating in the flesh.      Were nowhere near this, were at the point were our flesh DOESN’T want to do any of it.

Guess what it will be your flesh! Your flesh is connected, you are in your body, if we are to worship God the way he prescribes, our flesh will be included!


Try it in your private worship first

So where do we get these postures of praise?

Our English translations really do a disservice to Gods word sometimes. For example you may have heard that the word love in English is translated from 4 different words in Greek – agape Gods perfect love, phileo brotherly love, storge family love, and eros sexual love

In the same way when we read the word PRAISE, we don’t really get the depth of what is being commanded in the bible.

These are postures of praise – Everywhere in the bible where we are told to praise or worship, there is ALWAYS a physical response or action involved!

Barak – to kneel to bow, to lay prostrate, to fall down, to salute

This is sometimes translated as “bless”

Ps 34:1 I will praise the Lord at all times

Ps 95:6 Come, let us worship and bow down.
Let us kneel before the Lord our maker,

Regarding salutes:

In countries with recognized social classes, bowing to nobility and royalty is customary. In western countries where equality is recognized, it is not accepted

I know one thing, we are NOT equal with God.  We’re heirs, and his children but not equal.

We cannot allow our American liberties and customs to dictate how we approach God.

Yadah – Thankful expression of praise with hands (clapping, wringing, lifting, extending)

Ps 67:5 May the nations praise you, O God.
Yes, may all the nations praise you

How do you respond to someone with a gun to your back? Our hands go up, yet its so hard at church!

Towdah – Thanks and praise with the hands for what GOD IS GOING to do,

a procession of worshippers , an offering with expectation

Ps 50:23 But giving thanks is a sacrifice that truly honors me.

Ps 100:4 Enter his gates with thanksgiving; go into his courts with praise.
Give thanks to him and praise his name.

Zamar – Instrumental worship praise with instruments

ps 27:6 Then I will hold my head high
above my enemies who surround me.
At his sanctuary I will offer sacrifices with shouts of joy,
singing and praising the Lord with music

Ps 108:1 My heart is confident in you, O God;
no wonder I can sing your praises with all my heart!

Shabach – to command or shout

Ps 63:3 Your unfailing love is better than life itself;
how I praise you!

ps 145:4 Let each generation tell its children of your mighty acts;
let them proclaim your power

Halal – root of hallelujah to boast, celebrate, sing, act clamorously foolish, dance

ps 35:18 Then I will thank you in front of the great assembly.
I will praise you before all the people

22:26  All who seek the Lord will praise him.
Their hearts will rejoice with everlasting joy.

149:3 Praise his name with dancing,
accompanied by tambourine and harp

Halleluia is a Hebrew word which means to be clamorously foolish for God.

Zeph. 3:17 – The LORD your God is with you,
the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you;
in his love he will no longer rebuke you,
but will rejoice over you with singing.”

“rejoice over you” – – literally dance, skip, leap, spin around in joy. God dances with shouts of joy over us! How much more should we dance with joy since He is in our midst?

Tehillah – to sing with songs, spontaneous songs

Specifically spontaneous singing:

Tehiliah praise:

 is the praise that God inhabits! Ps 22:3 Yet you are holy,
enthroned on the praises of Israel

Is battle 2 cron 20:22 Jehoshaphoat At the very moment they began to sing and give praise,

the Lord caused the armies of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir to start fighting among themselves

Is evangelism ps 40:3 He has given me a new song to sing, a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see what he has done and be amazed. They will put their trust in the Lord

Lifts a heavy spirit Is 61:1-3 The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is upon me,
for the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor.
He has sent me to comfort the brokenhearted
and to proclaim that captives will be released
and prisoners will be freed.[a]
2 He has sent me to tell those who mourn
that the time of the Lord’s favor has come,[b]
and with it, the day of God’s anger against their enemies.
3 To all who mourn in Israel,[c]
he will give a crown of beauty for ashes,
a joyous blessing instead of mourning,
festive praise instead of despair.
In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks
that the Lord has planted for his own glory.

David vs Michal who will you be like 2 sam 6

David = man after gods own heart Michal = Barren

Your flesh is at war with your spirit for control of your soul

The reason expressive praise is uncomfortable is because our focus is not on God it’s on idols!


Don’t let preference get in the way of your praise

For every person who says its too loud, I have a person that says its too quiet

For every person says more hymns, I have a person that says  too many hymns

For every person who says its to outward and expressive,  I have a person that says were dead

I am already at 31 feeling the tension of the next generation rejecting my style of worship

3 things lead to my lack of expression: Fear pride insecurity

Satan is repulsed by praise accompanied by freedom

This might be a step by step learning process, for some raising one hand in worship is just as hard as doing the holy ghost shuffle

Its hard to manufacture praise, but it’s a natural response to Gods goodness and power!

I’m not challenging you to do anything except NOT TO GET COMFORTABLE IN YOUR PRAISE! Always press the boundaries.

Repost : Lifetime Achievement Award

I’m sure you’ve seen countless specials on TV where honor is bestowed on a person, group or organization.  Sometimes there is some visual montage of their achievements while other times, songs/performances are dedicated to the person whom all focus is given that evening.  That person is clearly visible in the crowd and given a seat of honor and respect.

Before we met Christ, we strived to make our lives count where we would also receive that lifetime achievement.  Our careers, our dreams and ambitions were all driven with the impression and legacy we wanted to leave to this generation and the ones to come.

After we met Christ, we strived to bestow that same honor, glory and respect once held captive for ourselves now released to the One to whom it is due.

Christ is the audience.  Christ is the one who’s Name is in lights.  We are the ones presenting the lifetime achievement award to the One who achieved something in your lifetime.  In fact, He’s impacted generation after generation after generation.  NO ONE can claim such an achievement but Christ alone.


Not to us, O LORD, not to us but to your name be the glory because of your love and faithfulness.  – Psalm 115:1

Lord, thank you for taking this life and achieving your hearts desire.